Wednesday, March 24, 2010


The phone rang at 4 a.m. One of my best friends in the world was on the line very upset as some very hard truths became evident and her 3 year relationship came to an end right before her eyes. Life lessons can be hard and unforgiving. They can chew you up and spit you out without any care in the world for your feelings; But they are also a necessary catalyst for change. Change can be an unforgiving mistress as well, but without it there would be no growth, no movement, no vitality in life.
We as humans fight change tooth and nail. We are creatures of habit, preferring the known to the unknown. Change frightens us because change means moving from something we are used to, something we KNOW, into something dark where we can't see what lies ahead. This is where faith and belief in ones self becomes so important.
My friend has had many difficult life lessons thrown at her in her life. Never once has she put her head down and given up, even when it would have been easier to do so. She stares change right in the face and walks toward it, knowing that things will work out, that life will go on and the pain that she feels at that moment, will soon be a memory. She embraces change, and it's a beautiful thing to see, even through the tears and the pain and the fear. Her belief in herself gets her through, her faith in life and what is right moves her toward the change, no matter how difficult. In the end, when all is said and done, she can look at herself in the mirror and know she will be fine, her girls will be fine, life will go on and still have a deep sense of fulfillment because what she did was hard, but necessary because no one should have to live being treated that badly.

Spring is all about new life and change. It is my wish that all of us are able to embrace our life and the changes that come with it this year with hope and courage and faith in ourselves.

"The key to to let go of fear." ~ Rosanne Cash


Anonymous said...

Oh, Stace, that was beautiful! I'm so sorry about your poor friend's relationship going to pieces, but what a great post it spawned. Thank you!

WhisperingWriter said...

I'm sorry about your friend.

But you are right, change isn't always a bad thing.

Gayle said...

I am what you write of. Terrified of change. I think it's come to the point where I rarely leave my home because it is my comfort zone. Change is good in some instances. And diversity is good in all instances. I'm glad for your friend that she has you. What a treasure of a friend. (Wish you were my neighbor).

Anonymous said...

That was really heartlfelt that you friend had to experience that she did not try to control, manipulate and drive someone to the point!!!